What?? O___O Seriously?? I will never understand these people... never. And that is coming from someone who really, really wants kids of their own. A boy and a girl. Maternal instinct goes into overdrive every time I walk into the baby section at Walmart. But that has not a freezing flying pig in Hell to do with whether or not anyone ELSE has kids.
I have a theory as to why many of these people keep bugging you about this. There is just no reason for a normal person who is satisfied with their decision to have kids to harass childfree people in this manner.
Either 1) they would have been childfree, but whether due to social conditioning or some other factor they didn't know it was an option. Because you exercised this option in your life and are happy, they are resentful.
2) They are extremely insecure about their parenting. Maybe because the media trumps it up as this "you will not even know the meaning of life until you crank one out, OMG!" experience, they had high expectations that the reality of changing diapers, wiping snotty noses, and answering an endless barrage of "Mommy, why?" questions doesn't meet day to day. Their kid was not an instant key to the Meaning of Life Club, which they feel awful about, and subsequently feel that they must constantly and obnoxiously proselytize the joys of childrearing as penance. "Fake it till you make it," if you will.
Those are literally the only two explanations I can come up with for this level of interrogation. Are there others? It's not personal, people. Not everyone wants a kid. On behalf of those of us who do and do not give a shit what anyone else chooses for their life as long as it makes them happy, I deeply apologize. The others get loose sometimes. We try, but reality TV only distracts them for so long.
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Date: 2013-04-18 06:45 pm (UTC)I have a theory as to why many of these people keep bugging you about this. There is just no reason for a normal person who is satisfied with their decision to have kids to harass childfree people in this manner.
Either 1) they would have been childfree, but whether due to social conditioning or some other factor they didn't know it was an option. Because you exercised this option in your life and are happy, they are resentful.
2) They are extremely insecure about their parenting. Maybe because the media trumps it up as this "you will not even know the meaning of life until you crank one out, OMG!" experience, they had high expectations that the reality of changing diapers, wiping snotty noses, and answering an endless barrage of "Mommy, why?" questions doesn't meet day to day. Their kid was not an instant key to the Meaning of Life Club, which they feel awful about, and subsequently feel that they must constantly and obnoxiously proselytize the joys of childrearing as penance. "Fake it till you make it," if you will.
Those are literally the only two explanations I can come up with for this level of interrogation. Are there others? It's not personal, people. Not everyone wants a kid. On behalf of those of us who do and do not give a shit what anyone else chooses for their life as long as it makes them happy, I deeply apologize. The others get loose sometimes. We try, but reality TV only distracts them for so long.