Because humans are the best, right?

[brightlotusmoon]

"So, do you have kids?"
"Nope. We have three cats."
"Why don't you have any kids?"
"We just don't want kids. Plus, I have medical issues and I don't want to get pregnant."
"Well, you could try adoption."
"Well, it's expensive. And we don't want kids."
"Huh. That's surprising. You sure you don't want to adopt?"
"No. We don't have the money or time or resources, and we just don't want children."
"Well, you could always find the time."
"My husband I will consider it, thank you. But right now, it's not in our plans."
"Ah. Okay, then. Well, at least your cats are like kids, right?"
"Sometimes, yes."

Dear everyone I meet who wonders why I don't have children: Stop fucking telling me I need to have children. Stop Just fucking stop. What part of "I don't want any" do you not understand? I don't want any. Ever. Let it go.

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[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

AUGH. FUCKING AUGH. FUCKING WHARGARBL LEG-BITING BITCHSLAP WHAT THE FUCK HOLY SHIT WHAT IS *WRONG* WITH THESE PEOPLE GAAAHH.

Oh, wait, you just said what's wrong with these people. Still. Fucking people.

Yeah. "You'd be a great mother!" "You would have beautiful, smart children!" "You need to breed so we can have more beautiful and smart people!"

And my new favorite: "But you're such a great cat owner! Your furbabies are so happy! You would be the best mother for real kids!"

A) Yes, because my ability to take care of an animal is directly related to how I would take care of a human infant as it grows and becomes a bigger human.

B) OH MY GODS I HATE THE TERM FURBABIES. FURKIDS. FURCHILDREN. THEY ARE ANIMALS. DOMESTICATED ANIMALS. WHY CAN'T I JUST CALL THEM MY PETS. I HATE PEOPLE.

[naamah-darling.livejournal.com]

You can do things to pets and not harm them that would psychologically scar a human child forever.

Says the person with a cat named Asshole who spends a great deal of time in a laundry hamper in the closet when he is bad. (It just makes him chill out and go to sleep. A child, not so much.) Plus, I can leave the house anytime I want and not have to take the cats with me.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I have no idea why people think that someone having a pet means that someone would make a "great parent."

[naamah-darling.livejournal.com]

Generally speaking, nobody's going to arrest you for treating an animal like your child. People WILL arrest you for treating your child like an animal.

Why this confuses people confuses me.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

And yet my friend E. is still being literally hunted by her own birth mother, who tried to kill her children with a mallet. And the mother still has not been arrested because "there is no proof" and because the mother is too "protected" by her church, family and friends. And so E. has now moved across the country in desperation and has PTSD like whoa.

[elialshadowpine]

The only time I call them furbabies or children in any seriousness is when they are making me yell things that make me sound like a parent yelling at her kids. I have, for real, had someone overheard our cats and been convinced we had kids and just weren't telling her about it.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's good when it's like that. :)