New Friends

[brightlotusmoon]

Hallo, new friends. I've been friended by a bunch of people in the past couple of weeks. Could those new friends step forward and comment on how they found me, why they friended me, and if we'd met in another online media or forum? Because, you know, memory problems. If we met on Facebook, can you tell me your name, or at least part of your Facebook name? Cool.

Comments

[belenen.livejournal.com]

I re-friended you because I was loving all of your posts on facebook and realized that you still post here. I think we were friends a long time ago (though I may have just followed you? my memory is crap).

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Oh, hello! I remember that we friended each other ages ago, then we both went through a bunch of things and there was a bunch of unfriending all around, and then we were on Facebook together, and my memory is crap. I had no idea you were loving my posts on FB. Thank you so much!

I have to ask: Are you still a gender abolitionist? Are you agender (which is trans*), or neutrois, or genderfluid? See, I am all about gender being important, just not gender roles or stereotypes. I know people who still prefer terms like male-bodied, female-bodied, for themselves only. Are you okay with that? I wanted to ask because I've run into many abolitonists who are well, very extreme to the extreme. And I know several trans* people who don't like gender-free pronouns and would prefer gendered pronouns. (I've been reading so much, talking to so many people; and just like in the disabled community, the is no One Way.)
People always ask if they can call me Jo. I'm totally comfortable with it. Sometimes I really do feel agender, whilst still embracing my biological sex as assigned female. It's a little weird, which is why I don't talk about it.
I keep buying certain clothes from the Boys section. There is more room. I never understood the way tee shirts are "cut" for girls and for boys.
You know, like this.
http://chaoslife.findchaos.com/clothes-shopping
I'm so sorry for rambling at you.

[belenen.livejournal.com]

I call myself genderfree, it could also be called agender as I am pretty sure that is the same thing but I don't like the word because it doesn't have the right connotation for me. As far as sex, I experience myself as intersex but do not plan to have surgery. I don't think it is weird to reject gender but identify with your birth sex, 'cause I know many people for whom that is true. Yes, I am okay with other people having genders, that's their business, and I will respect trans people's pronouns.

I am a gender abolitionist in the sense that I feel a perfect world wouldn't have gender, and I feel that really, there are more genders than there are human beings so finding a word that fits more than one person seems counterproductive. But I also understand that gender, and group identity, is very real in the world we are in now, and I do not desire to push anyone to give up gender (however, gendered expectations I super do push people to give up).

[shehasathree]

friendly_crips, i think? Plus we have several other lj friends in common, plus i have been periodically seeking out fellow autistic folks on lj and dw for the past 18 months or so. :)

[nightshade1972.livejournal.com]

As you know, I'm in a fibromyalgia support group on LJ, as well as friendly_crips. We've recently become FB friends as well--I'm Jennifer Davis Ewing.

:-)

[nightengalesknd.livejournal.com]

We met on friendly_crips last week in a shared rant about autism and CP. . .