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Adam will be in Las Vegas by the time I get ready for bed.
It doesn't matter what sort of "long distance relationship" you have, or a relationship where one partner travels constantly; it's still a heartache. You could be three states apart all the time. You could be on both sides of a country, or a continent apart. One of you could be traveling constantly.
I hate when some people try to one-up each other in this. As if they deserve more pain and heartache because their lovers are more of a distance away. They cry that no one understands; they feel they are the only ones. To them I implore that they acquire even a modicum of maturity, or else they should shut up. It doesn't matter; it's not exclusive.
Adam and I started out exclusively long-distance, and stayed like that for two years while I finished college. Now his job sends him all over the country for days, weeks at a time. I'm used it it, I'm fine with it: It still hurts. I miss him before he even leaves.
I admire, applaud, and sympathize with anyone who has this and has gone through this.
It doesn't matter what sort of "long distance relationship" you have, or a relationship where one partner travels constantly; it's still a heartache. You could be three states apart all the time. You could be on both sides of a country, or a continent apart. One of you could be traveling constantly.
I hate when some people try to one-up each other in this. As if they deserve more pain and heartache because their lovers are more of a distance away. They cry that no one understands; they feel they are the only ones. To them I implore that they acquire even a modicum of maturity, or else they should shut up. It doesn't matter; it's not exclusive.
Adam and I started out exclusively long-distance, and stayed like that for two years while I finished college. Now his job sends him all over the country for days, weeks at a time. I'm used it it, I'm fine with it: It still hurts. I miss him before he even leaves.
I admire, applaud, and sympathize with anyone who has this and has gone through this.
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Date: 2007-05-29 02:35 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-05-29 03:00 pm (UTC)It really takes a strong, committed heart. I think the familiarity of having started as a LDR helps me cope with the consistent separations.
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Date: 2007-05-29 02:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-05-29 03:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-05-29 04:03 pm (UTC)*hugs* It sucks, but I know that the love you guys share will see you through.
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Date: 2007-05-29 04:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-05-29 04:49 pm (UTC)being apart at the beginning of a relationship allows me and mine to still be ourselves and have our own lives while figuriong out how we fit together. it gives me time to miss her and time to get to know her in other mediums and on non-physical levels.
however, all of this comes with the understanding that it won't be forever.
my heart goes out to you that, married, you still have such long periods apart. but i suppose it still gives you time to miss each other, and things to talk about, and perhaps helps keep everything new.
*hug*
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Date: 2007-05-29 05:20 pm (UTC)You're right; we do develop strong bonds because of that time apart now. When he comes home he can share stories of things he did, places he visited, people he met; and it gives me a chance to understand the wide country through his perceptions. Life is not boring! It gives us a chance to behave like young, love-struck kids (again) sometimes.
I also feel that it's the understanding that it won't be forever that really pushes and drives us all. You me, Adam, Cynthia, etc. A long distance relationship will eventually die unless there is a guarantee that sooner or later, you will be together. Even in cases like Odysseus and Penelope, for example. Took him twenty years to come home, and she still waited.