talking on trains

[brightlotusmoon]

On the train this morning, as the question was joyfully asked and expanded on (and she kept talking fervently) and I replied as simply as possible, this went through my head.

Thank you very much for asking when my husband and I will start having children. I know you are just being polite and curious. However, you are the [insert number] person to ask me that since I got married. As I have explained to all the others, I will have children when I am ready. It may not be for several more years. I do not feel that getting pregnant, giving birth, and raising a child is something I want to do right now.
Also, while I appreciate your curiosity and odd fascination concerning the future of my womb, I find it slightly unsettling. I am afraid I don't see how my sex life, the health of my reproductive organs, and the activity of my uterus have anything to do with anyone but me and my partner. I wish you all the best for you and your [current/potential] offspring, but you really do not need to concern yourself with me and mine. Also, please get that glazed gleam out of your eyes. It's a little frightening.
Thank you.

Really, the woman seemed a little... zealous. It made me want to cover my lower abdomen with my arms and tell her that no, she couldn't have my future children.

Comments

wrong

[officeninja.livejournal.com]

you need to start turning them out so we can have a BBQ - they taste really good grilled w/das honey mustard sause. get workin' on the birthin'

Re: wrong

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Only if we can do the same with yours.

Re: wrong

[officeninja.livejournal.com]

i don't think mine are gonna taste good - most likely bitter and gamey

Re: wrong

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

You just need the right seasonings, maybe marinade them overnight.

Re: wrong

[officeninja.livejournal.com]

i might be worth looking into

Re: wrong

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

And now I'm going to stop talking about it, because as amusing as it might be given our senses of humor, it's slightly creepy.

Re:BBQ

[officeninja.livejournal.com]

its not creepy its just a matter of preference. there are many foods that some object to and others don't - i myself find mayonaise to be horrid, but some even mix it with catsup and dip chicken into it...., YUCKY

Re:BBQ

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Adam showed me how to make Russian dressing, and he mixed mayo and ketchup, and I thought it was the most horrid thing I'd ever seen food-wise... so I agree there.

Re: BBQ

[fionavere.livejournal.com]

Some people dip french fries in mayo, those people need to see a head Dr.

[queen-lily-rose.livejournal.com]

That Is Just So Creepy And Squicky.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

More so than any other person who has asked me that question, yeah. She was almost religious about it.

[queen-lily-rose.livejournal.com]

Ewwwwwww. They Just Can't Help Themselves, Can They? Gods Save Us From The Fundies Of All The World's Religions! *Hugs*

[hilarina.livejournal.com]

lolol. that is so classic. I should print what you wrote and carry it around like a sign. actually, people have given up on me because I grew up mormon (ex mormon now and glad to be out) and didnt get married. at this point I am a lost cause in their eyes. i remember once i was at my friends wedding and her mom came up and whispered "Hang on to this one", referencing my boyfriend. I almost laughed so hard. it was so rude. my sister was married at 20, several friends married at 19, and my brother is getting married this month at 22. He was feeling the pressure. I know a mormon woman my age who has 5 kids.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Oh, my. See, I will never understand people who religiously believe in having lots of kids.

And please do feel free to print this out! While I was being tongue-in-cheek, I also meant it to be a sort of general thing. :)

[hilarina.livejournal.com]

hehe, yeah I should wear it as a sign. because the comments will start again when i get a bf.

yes, believers of the mormon church need to have lots of kids so spirits in heaven can get bodies and come to earth. you arent supposed to limit family size or delay having kids because those spirits need to get bodies. This is part of church doctrine. They do allow birth control and in the last couple decades a lot of couples have been ignoring the rules and planning their families to be a smaller size.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

Wow. That's, um, an interesting belief system.

[hilarina.livejournal.com]

lol. it helps them continue to produce new mormons

[cwjennifer.livejournal.com]

I just love complete strangers, don't you?

Like the ones who strike up a conversation with my boyfriend and I, politely ask how long we've been married, and when we say we're not married, they will exclaim, "Why NOT?!" Like they're my Italian family or something.

Why do they care?

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

It's their business! A child is part of society! By having children, you are giving back to society! Everyone needs to know! It's a society's job to know!
This was an actual argument on a forum last year. We told the woman who argued that society was more than welcome to pay for our pregnancies, birthing, childrearing, and education.