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Holy random acts of kindness, Batman.
After getting my flu vaccine, I went to look at the cane rack, because they have this beautiful blue and silver one that looks like dragon scales, and I have been waiting for discounts and coupons so I could get it. The price is under twenty dollars, but still.
A middle-aged man who looked so much like Idris Elba that I did a second take, also reached for the blue silver cane. Our eyes met, I smiled briefly. He said, "You know, I bet this would make an awesome magic staff for cosplay."
I grinned and said, "Good plan! I should at least join a game just so I can brag. Or just be my paganish elf self and cosplay every day." Which was blurted out because my filter is so thin.
The Idris Elba lookalike chuckled. "I adore that idea. I just pray to all mighty Atheismo that we aren't going too deep. Like that Tom Hanks movie."
My jaw dropped. "Duuude," I said. "Futurama reference plus obscure D&D rip-off movie nee book reference? Cripple high five!"
We high fived and missed on purpose, stumbling. "Mild cerebral palsy, spastic hemiplegia" I said. "Mild cerebral palsy, diplegia mixed," he said. "And knee arthritis."
"And sciatica," we said in union, surprising ourselves.
"Fibromyalgia and epilepsy and autism too," I added.
He said, "My twin nieces are autistics! Their world is so awesome. I think they prefer me to my brother when they're in meltdowns, they talk about what's going on in detail."
"Awesome!" I said.
At this point, we had been staring at the canes and I had been avoiding too much eye contact. I was about to ask the Idris Elba lookalike about advocacy. Then I saw a gleam in his eye and sensed a topic shift. "Hey, listen," he said. "I'm a proponent of the pay it forward thing. I know we're strangers, but I do know enough about you that you really want the dragon scale cane."
I tilted my head. "Yeeeaah?"
"So, okay." He pulled some pieces of paper from his pocket. "I've got a buy one get one half off for this brand of canes. I will buy you your cane. What do you think?"
I blinked a few times. I looked at him. He wasn't hitting on me. He wasn't being creepy. He was just a fellow cripple offering help.
"Okay," I said, "thank you! That's really kind."
"Hey, the community needs all the assistance we can get from each other. Cripples helping cripples, you know?"
I smiled. "Totally."
As we walked to a register, he said, "I want you to know that I had no intention of hitting on you. I see your rings, and for all I know they could mean something else. But while I think you're a gorgeous-looking person, I have no plans on being a That Guy. I punch Those Guys on a regular basis."
"Huh?"
"Physical trainer. Not so much punch as pinch in sensitive areas. Men can be scum."
I giggled. "Hashtag Not All Men!"
He laughed. "Anyway, let me pay for everything." He nodded at my basket, which had a few comfort items. I immediately said he shouldn't, since he was getting me the cane.
He then put my basket on the conveyor belt, looked at me until I noticed that his eyes had gold rings, and said, "Then pay it forward. Help another cripple." The corner of his mouth turned up. "Even if it's just donating to help someone get better access."
I nodded. I was going to cry any minute. He paid for everything, put his things in two totes and put my things in two more totes. He saved me almost forty dollars.
He said, "I would offer you a ride, but my friend's picking me up so we can go back to Philly. It's been a great road trip so far."
I nodded. "It's cool. I'm going to take the bus home anyway." I was feeling giddy. "Well, obviously we had this encounter for a reason. So. It was lovely meeting you, clone of Idris Elba."
He threw back his head and laughed. "I get that a lot. Same to you, clone of Mia Sara. Anyway, I'm Laurence."
"Joanna."
We fist-bumped and he helped adjust my cane for my height. We walked outside together, and he stood at the curb to wait for his friend while I walked across the parking lot. I turned and waved. He waved back and kept looking at me. I realized it was to make sure I was safe.
I got to the sidewalk crosswalk and peered back. I saw him get into a green SUV. I realized I would probably never see him again.
I am definitely going to Pay It Forward.

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Also! Links! For future reference!
http://www.neurodiversity.com/main.html
http://cerebralpalsy.org/about-cerebral-palsy/associative-conditions/
http://www.disabilityscoop.com/2013/10/03/autism-common-cerebral-palsy/18775/

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Also!
PMS is vicious. Although with oral contraceptives, it's technically withdrawal bleeding rather than menstruation. Besides, I haven't truly bled in over a year. Being on the highest dose of birth control for over fourteen years will do that to some women.
PMS is vicious. A veliciraptor chewing through my pelvis. There's a photo out there of a plastic female human skeleton, with a toy raptor stuck head-first through the pelvic bone.
And the bloating and bizarre fluctuations on the bathroom scale.
Having slid back to psychiatric anorexia after failing to control neurochemical anorexia, I know damn well I should not stand on that scale especially during this time. I know damn well that numbers don't mean as much as how my clothing fits. But paranoia bred from life-long anxiety over disordered eating patterns is paranoia. And then there was the entire food=growth=death connection when I was little. And then there was being under a hundred pounds until my mid-twenties. And then there was the anorexia voices insisting that I needed to get back to that, being under five feet tall. I was never overweight. I used to weigh something around the high "set point" - but I have no idea where I've constructed this memory of being convinced to lose twenty pounds. Unfortunately, my illness has burrowed deep enough into my subconscious that my thoughts have turned to the classic hallmarks of anorexia: "I absolutely must be below X number or I will never feel right". The unwillingness to stop. The belief that everything is wrong. I know where I am. I know what's happening. I've been able to compartmentalize and separate enough so that I smack myself when those thoughts occur, so that I at least eat an apple or two, or cheese, yogurt, celery, even cheesecake or dark chocolate. My friends are with me.
Sag Harbor will happen next week, with Thanksgiving. Part of me is in a total blind mute panic. That part doesn't want to eat anything. That part wants to Be Good, Be Perfect. It doesn't matter that I'm over thirty, says the panic. It only matters that I am extremely small and I must keep being extremely small.
To bring everything around again: PMS is not helping. PMS is several numbers upward on the scale because of fluid retention, bloating... losing that fight to not overeat. PMS is barely fitting into the purple dyed jeans yesterday and having them slightly loose today. It isn't helping anything.

But I look at that blue and silver dragon scale cane, bought for me by a total stranger with the same disability as me, and I think the best way I can Pay It Forward is to make sure someone I care for stays as mentally healthy as possible...
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My modified Disablility Compensated Qi Gong exercises always help, mentally and spiritually and psychologically and physiologically. Like yoga, except Fake Yoga Cripple Style that is not actually yoga. (FYCS. FIX. Ha ha ha...) (Or hey, Fake Yoga Cripple Style Modified Exercise. FYCSME = FIX ME. Ha ha. Wow. Dude.)

But it isn't helping today. I'm too Hollow, which is my term for deep major depression. I'm too Postictal, after that unexpectedly awful seizure yesterday and its aftershock which were tiny seizures for hours. Emotional responses are foreign and results of emotion are mere symptoms, like crying and laughing. I will meditate again, do more qigong work, and breathe and much as possible.
FYI. I am having an episode of pure major Depression plus major Anxiety. This is accompanied by mild memory loss of the past two days. Everything is foggy. I know I should be upset about something, but I cannot feel upset. What is upset, anyway? I think I hurt myself emotionally yesterday. I wish I remembered what it was. I believe it started out with false happiness. Remember that weird assumption of some sort of hypomania? I think I was outside of my rational mind.

Back to special exercises.
People keep suggesting and recommending breathing exercises. I know all of that. I know people just want to share their personal remedies. I love it. Please don't think I am rejecting you. I love hearing your stories. Even the stories about yoga. I wish I could explain why just seeing or hearing the word yoga evokes a sad, upset reaction. It isn't that I am unable to do yoga. It is just that yoga extremists do not listen nor care about my need for compensation. My body was born crooked. I cannot form a proper straight line even if I held on to something. No amount of cajoling, insisting, or pushing different forms will change that. Please don't do that. Please just accept that I have to perform qi gong differently, and that qi gong included poses that are similar to yoga, and that yoga is not the greatest panacea of healing holistic practices. This is part of why I don't want to visit California, which makes absolutely no sense and makes me look prejudiced.

So. Please, please do talk about how much yoga is healing you, because that is beautiful and I am genuinely, honestly joyfully happy. But if you wish to suggest a yoga pose that can be modified for someone with a shaky, spastic, crippled body, please suggest an alternate form. That is all I ask. There is no such thing as a real panacea, even in the botanical world, even in the plant and herb world, and certainly not in the exercise world. It is entirely possible that I will find a set of yoga exercises that will really, truly help me, and I will join the ranks of yoga enthusiasts. Anything is possible. Nothing is off limits. Except evangelism. If I wanted something pushed down my throat, I will drink water mixed with special fruit and plant powders, like sea buckthorn and moringa.
This is coming from my years as a holistic enthusiast and pusher. I was bad. I was essentially an asshole. And then I learned that it was just wrong. I never want to do that again. Just because something works perfectly for me does not mean it will work at all for someone else.

Any form of good physical-spiritual combination exercise, be it yoga, qigong, taichi, strength training, cardio, dead lift weight, isometrics, plyometrics, dance, hardcore dance, etc, is wonderful and beautiful and strengthening, and will help everyone in some personal powerful way. That is the point of exercise.
I love you all. If you really want to help me, don't push me. Just guide me.

Okay...

Nov. 12th, 2012 08:02 pm
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Adam just came home from work. We're having stir-fry, with string beans, mushrooms, and bacon. I certainly feel good about that. Next step: Learn to stir fry on my own.

I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I shouldn't be afraid. Not if it's only been a few days. My appetite has been odd lately. It doesn't mean anything threatening. I will fall back naturally. I will push myself up. I will be all right.

I'm so sorry. I am thinking of something cheerful and fantastic to post now; it breaks my heart when I vent things like this. But this is my journal; I must document.

No...

Nov. 12th, 2012 07:22 pm
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Oh, I don't want this to be bad. Please, Higher Brain, don't let this be bad.
All day yesterday I had trouble eating, and by the time I went to sleep my stomach was sending "starving" signals to my brain. I was in pain, dehydrated, desperate. I got up and had a few sips of liquid kefir to calm my stomach. When I woke up this morning, I was horrified to realize that for the first time in seven years, I felt anorexic. I managed to eat just enough to keep myself well, and now I need dinner and can't even think. Eggs, most likely. Gods, this is not good. I don't want to feel this way. I need to make it stop. I don't want this.

Apologies if I have triggered anyone, but... I don't know how to finish that; my brain just blanked out. I do need food. Right now. I don't want to worry myself. Not yet. But I need to have an eating schedule. I need to eat...
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Cut for currently uncharacteristic whining and grumping about menstrual weight gain, bloating, body measurements, and numbers. Because damn it, I need to let this out somehow.
Read more... )
Body health and muscle health doesn't happen overnight. I'm over 30; my body is changing. And I am not helping myself by mentally snarling at people who whine about their perceived imperfect weight issues when they have absolutely none. I am also not helping myself by imagining my mother telling me that I was becoming overweight because I weighed more than 110. She essentially wants me to be as thin as I can because for her, thin means healthy. I love her so so much, but I really do think she has a mild eating disorder of some kind.
I am fine. My health is fine. My doctors say I'm fine. I eat small portions of healthy food daily with occasional small portions of junk food. Nobody can force me to eat or exercise a certain way.
And that's what I tell myself during my mental bitchslaps to myself.
I'm fine. I'll be fine. I'm also stressing too much about next week's hearing.
Dear Joanna: BREATHE. FUCKING RELAX ALREADY, GODS ABOVE AND AROUND, JUST BREATHE.

Silly body.

Jan. 7th, 2012 02:14 pm
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Oh. It's PMS. This would explain the random eight-pound weight fluctuations, the bloating, the feelings of rage against everything, the dead feelings, the hopelessness, the seizure auras, the cramping, the loss of appetite, the increased tactile allodynia. Time for more drugs, yay!

Jupiter is on the couch next to me, his front paws on my thigh, his purring loud as thunder but soothing. He nibbles my arm every now and then so I will be reminded to pet and scratch him.

Adam is at work, so my plan is to exercise lightly to at least one episode of "Farscape" (thank you, Netflix). I should eat more than a large banana and a small bowl of cereal, but I'm just not motivated to eat.

I can feel the Anorexia Worm sliding into the spaces between my deep thoughts, whispering, changing my mind in the back, telling me in my own voice that I'm too fat right now and I should severely restrict my eating until the sensation of hunger begins to feel more sweetly powerful and seductive than the need to eat my proper daily intake. Stupid worm. I feel you, this time. I know you. You are made of evil. But fighting is what I do, so it's on.

I think I'll have more cereal. That almond dark chocolate granola is calling.
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Microwave fettucine alfredo with broccoli? Best and easiest high-calorie meal for when I'm having anorexia moments.
This was a good idea. *pats stomach*

There's still so much debate over anorexia being a disease. My mother and husband have the same view: That the mental disorder does take hold and take control, but the victim also has a conscious choice, and in a way the progression of the illness is a subconscious self-sabotage. I don't completely agree with the theory, because I remember what it was like to struggle and battle and scream and still be unable to force myself to eat. Adam argues that it's because the illness has progressed to a point where the body is too sick to eat. But all that time, I could have made a choice to recover.
I don't see a point in getting irritated or frustrated at statements like those, because he only wants to help. He said last night with a smile, "Now you just have to concentrate on staying healthy. I'll help. I love you." And that's okay. Because he knows I was sick. It doesn't matter what his personal theory his: I was very sick, I was close to dying, and he helped me live.
But it's when people say, "You're not anorexic, you're stupid!" that I get actually angry (I still have not confronted the person who said that, and don't plan to).
I'm still not sure what I believe.
However, the medical definition of "anorexia" is "loss of appetite." This essentially means that anorexia can also be a symptom, even a temporary symptom, of other disorders and diseases. Yes, it can be a full-fledged disorder in itself, becoming "anorexia nervosa," but it can also be symptomatic and a side effect.
My doctor has warned me that some women with fibromyalgia can struggle with bouts of anorexia, due to the chronic pain and fatigue, and that if they suffered from anorexia in the past, it can often be triggering. My therapist has assured me that symptomatic anorexia can be easily fought, and she likes when I find foods that help that battle.
I have to be careful.
I have fettucine alfredo.
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...and she cries like I cried )

gained

Jun. 11th, 2007 01:33 pm
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Gaining: The Truth About Life After Eating Disorders

One of the reviews:
Read more... )

Thinking:
She expands on the thinking that "genetics loads the gun and enrivonment pulls the trigger" in terms of biological predisposition and experiential triggers for those who suffer from eating disorders by writing about the position that genetics creates the gun, environment loads it and extreme emotional experiences fire the ED bullet.

Mmm. Yah.
I want to show this to my mother. It struck a huge blow to hear her say to my face that, in a roundabout way, it was partially my fault for not stopping the anorexia.

Oh...

Jun. 11th, 2007 12:00 pm
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On my friends list, a post by [livejournal.com profile] shadesong moved me to tears, because she said something that could have come from my mouth, my mind myself:

"Just one of the bits of damage the past few years have inflicted on me = I don't know what my body is supposed to look like anymore. I've never been able to judge my body as compared to the bodies of others - the curves I find attractive in other women would, on me, send that voice clear 'round the bend. And I can tell myself "This is idiotic - you find her beautiful, and you are skinnier than her, therefore you are not the baby beluga you think you are." But this is not a rational thing.

I don't recognize myself in the mirror. After years of hollow thin face and razor-slash cheekbones, my cheeks seem full, my face seems amorphous. There are layers of meat on my arms, my legs, my belly. I never really registered myself as being as skinny as I was at my lowest - pictures of me then shock me. That's not what I looked like in my head. But neither is this. So I can't really objectively tell if I'm okay."

Yeah.
Yeah.

Everything.
Everything.
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I was reading about Lunapanties, which are panties worn in place of disposable pantyliners. I looked at the size chart, and as usual I expected to be a Small or Extra Small. According to their particular size chart, I would have to buy a Medium.
It was such a powerful, intense trigger that I closed the browser immediately, shoved the thought from my mind (naturally it kept coming back) and covered my abdomen with my hands and rocked back and forth for a few minutes. I felt the hard, flat muscles of my upper abs constricting against my palms as I breathed. I felt the soft female padding on my lower abs give and move when I pressed my fingers into it. I felt my backside pressing against the chair, my butt which felt too soft, too round, too big. And all I could think, all I wanted, was "I need to be thin again, I need to be thin again, I don't want to be a medium size in panties" and I thought it over and over because I could not stop it
And yet I knew, I knew, I knew that I was still thin, because the doctor said so and that damn useless BMI calculator said so and everyone said so.
And that is the problem with this kind of sickness. It's not my fault, and I will say it loud to the faces of those who call anorexics "stupid" and "attention whores" and who believe that a vicious eating disorder is entirely the fault of the sufferer. This is real. This isn't a cry for attention. I would have never let this happen if I could have stopped it.
I wish I didn't think these thoughts. I wish it didn't matter. I wish right now that I could go into my kitchen and make myself breakfast and know that my throat won't try to close up when I swallow more than a few bites.
Recovering and recovered are two different creatures.

Fuck.

I'll be calling the therapist soon to talk.

Fuck.

sightseen

Apr. 25th, 2007 08:38 pm
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Danny and I are watching the next episode of "Stargate SG-1" which is supposed to air this coming Friday ("The Road Not Taken"). Hurrah for torrenting.
We made "uber" mac n cheese, loaded with extra cheese and spices and flavorings. The spices make it easy to digest and process. A very small amount was filling enough, barely the size of my fist.
Adam is in his hotel room in the New York Hilton on the Avenue of Americas. So far things are well.
Luna and I spent some quality time together relaxing on one of the reclining armchairs. She groomed me happily and I petted her into bliss. It seems she very much likes the fish food that I feed the parrotfishes, the cichlids, and the oscar.

I really need to roll out the yoga mat and work with the Pilates ring. I have muscle, but it needs to be toned. The flesh is soft, but I am still not used to soft, not even after three years of ED recovery. My mind, I think, is emotionally damaged in a way from the delusions that being the thinnest was the only way to be, especially for my height. I still feel like I don't belong with the body I have, because the body I had, the only adult body I knew for years, was a result of starvation and illness; and I had become intimately familiar with it. I became anorexic at 21, at a time when my body should have been allowed to bloom at its natural pace. I am half Italian, half Russian-Romanian; I am biologically designed for wide hips and a womanly curve. But I didn't believe it back then. I am working on believing it now, with more strength every day. I haven't forgotten.
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Billy and Charlotte are over; Billy to watch NASCAR with Adam, and Charlotte to do her weekly "housecleaning in exchange for me buying her cats' flea drops" visit, and of course to hang out with me. Now she and Adam are plotting -- with my permission -- to rearrange our bedroom.
Charlotte, being menopausal at 31 due to her hysterectomy, needed one of my T-shirts before she overheated and had a hot flash. She showed me the T-shirt she'd taken, and I, without thinking, made the off-hand comment, "Oh you can keep that. It's too tight for me; I've gained too much weight."
(Charlotte is six inches taller than me and also a former anorexic, but she needs to still gain about ten pounds in general. She and I have gone through a lot together when it comes to our bodies.)
She smiled, shook her head, said I looked just fine. I pulled up my shirt and patted my belly, which had gotten softer over the weeks. I said, "Look, it's all jiggly!" In response, Charlotte pulled up her own shirt and showed me her belly, which was much more rounded than mine. She ran her hands along my ribs and belly and said that my belly didn't even stick out and she could still feel my ribs. "Just because you've got a soft jiggly belly," she said, "doesn't mean it's a bad thing. It's just a woman thing. It's meant to jiggle."
I said, "Okay. How about this? Whenever I feel really bad about my body, I call you and we get together and make each other feel better about having feminine curviness? Plus we can exercise and do yoga."
Charlotte and I have been trying to plan out a "workout schedule" for a while anyway. She is geographically the closest female friend I have -- her house is a twenty minute drive away, and I can walk there from the Rockville Metro station if there is no one to drive me. She is also my oldest female friend since moving to Maryland. And we have this interesting psychic connection, although she is better at the telepathy/empathy thing than I am. So it makes sense that I'd want to turn to her for help with exercise.
I'm just relieved she has finally gained enough weight. I've seen her at her lowest. 85 pounds on a 5'5" adult woman is horrifying. The most I have ever seen her weigh was 130, and ten pounds of that dropped too quickly when she stopped eating for a while due to stress and endometriosis agony, even after the hysterectomy. But she now has color in her skin, her hair is shiny and bouncy, and she has boobies and an adorable belly. I'd say she's between 120 and 125. And she always reminds me, in some way, that I too am beautiful. It's no secret that we share a sexual attraction (which our husbands are amused by). But more than that: Every time I look at her and she looks at me I know we can be strong and keep going for each other, and continue recover together.
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I was reading an article about how anorexia may be a disease, and another personal opinion that anorexia is just stupidity and ignorance.

People who insist that anorexia is a choice and entirely the fault of the "victim" make me want to cry. I never chose to go through that torture. I never wanted to starve myself. Why the hell would I want to do that? I truly felt that something had overcome me, and I was pushed far back inside myself, beating against the walls of my own psyche, screaming. Do you really think I would have spent all those years hurting myself on purpose? It hurt to eat, it physically hurt. More than a few bites and I was in pain. Yeah, that's a fucking choice.
It hurt worse when my own mother said it, that it had been a choice on my part to continue the cycle. I don't blame her for thinking that, but then she really doesn't know much about the inner workings of anorexia -- she didn't even know I was sick until long after I had recovered.
But the people who know, and still think it's a "stupid decision" hurt me. I really don't think any of these people have ever had an eating disorder.
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I've been reading up on Billie Piper since she stopped playing Rose on Doctor Who. She was a teenage pop star, very big in the UK ("...at the age of 15 became the youngest British singer to secure a number one single."). She also suffered from anorexia for a few years, much worse than I had it. But she's recovered very well. And she is now very proud of her curvy shape and she loves her butt. She also loves other women's butts. I deem Billie Piper as officially awesome.
(Billie told Glamour magazine recently: "The whole size zero debate is disgusting. Some models you see are tiny because that's the way they were born. But then they'll get the attention and that will start feeding a fire. My sister, who is 13, looks amazing but she’s already worried about her figure. She loves [Victoria Beckham] and I say, 'Come on Ellie, she's tiny. What's wrong with Shakira? She's sexy, curvy'. But she has no interest.")

In related news, I have decided that I rather like my own ass. It's gotten better in shape since I've been climbing all the stairs at work every day. Three flights of stairs inside the office, ninteen stairs per flight. And if I go up and down all of them four or five times a day, five days a week, it tones me up very well. I'm not totally satisfied, but I've accepted it. I'll never have a small ass. I'm half Italian, after all. As a good friend once pointed out, I look like a woman now, not a twelve year old boy.
Now if only I could stop constantly fretting in the back of my mind about the size of my waistline (it's still tiny and part of me wants to keep it tiny), everything would be almost perfect.

*thinks* I haven't posted an entry about my body perceptions in a while. I guess I take it as a good sign that I'm more able to let things go and love the temple as it is.
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Between breakfast, lunch, snacks, and dinner today, I ate less than 1200 calories, yet I feel unbelievably full and bloated. I suppose that's the fault of the toasted half bagel with cream cheese (I gave Steve the other half). Breakfast was a Zoe Foods bar, Chocolate Delight. Lunch was microwavable Michelina's Mac n' Cheese, with half a tiny bag of Lay's chips. Dinner was the half bagel, and half a beef and bean burrito.
Decent mix of protein and carbs, bit too much fat, etc etc. Somebody want to explain why I feel like I just ate three days worth of food?

No, I'm not griping about my weight. I like my body now, I do. Every time I glance down, I see boobies! My stomach is still flat, I barely even have love handles. If I keep up the workouts, I'll be okay. I don't like the way my face is rounding out, but I'll live with it. The sharp Romanian cheekbones are a lovely thing.
I'm good.
I'm just... oh, it's a curious thing. I never really studied the science of nutrition much.
And I wonder how long I should wait before exercising. I suppose it's like swimming, wait an hour unless you want cramps.

Meh.
Some women who have been struck by eating disorders can completely and fully recover forever. I envy them. But I will never allow myself to feel weak. Power is a woman.

One more thing: Someone in my beauty community asked how to improve posture. This was my comment...
I like "sitting ab crunches" -- When I am sitting down, I pull my stomach in toward my spine and take a very deep breath, which automatically throws my shoulders back and flexes my chest muscles. I then "crunch" my stomach muscles my exhaling and moving my stomach muscles up and down, in and out. It's nearly impossible for me to do this unless my posture is perfectly straight. I also like to do this while standing, and walking. It keeps my stomach muscles tight and toned, helps burn calories, and makes me feel taller. One variation I like while sitting is to press my palms against my thighs and push down as I inhale; the exhale automatically loosens that tension. This way, I tone my arms and shoulders as well. It's all about isometrics.
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I am no longer in love with Keira Knightley.
Those recent photos make me want to scream and shove cheeseburgers at her.

I am, however, still in love with Scarlett Johansson and Kate Winslet -- two women whom Ms. Knightley named as being her role models.
If that is so, sweet Keira... why aren't you eating? There is a huge, huge difference between being skinny and being skeletal. Yes, they both start with the same two letters, but that's it.

She says, "I'm not anorexic. I'm sure I'm not." In the same breath she says that she has a family history of the disease.

When I was sick, I was in denial for years and years. I understand. I sympathize. No, no, no, I'm not, never. Yet watch me pick carefully at my food and then throw it away. Watch me get so thin that it made my best friend want to cry. Watch me get so weak that my lover told me I was dying.

I don't know if Keira Knightley is anorexic. She looks it. She looks like she has not eaten -- or exercised -- in weeks. If she is, I hope she gets help. If not, then I want to see a paparazzi shot of her eating a bowl of macaroni and cheese. The whole thing.

For lunch I want a cheeseburger with mushrooms and guacamole.

They tell me I'm still not eating enough.
They want me to eat more.
See? It's hard to tell in our own heads.

sandwich

Jun. 10th, 2006 09:19 pm
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Adam just made a truly mouth-watering concoction: A lightly toasted whole wheat sandwich consisting of bacon with tomato that has been marinated in water, balsamic vinegar, red wine vinegar, and Supreme Salad dressing. Basically bruschetta with bacon on toast. He gave me half.

I have been having trouble with eating lately. I will eat, regardless of how much or how little, and worry. If I am reclining on the couch, I will be completely relaxed, and I will start poking and grabbing at the flesh on my abdomen, which I know will stretch taught and flat if I stand. And yet I just cannot ignore hunger pangs like I used to. The old tricks won't work. I could drink a liter of tea and still desire food. I suppose this is my body's (and brain's) way of shaking fingers at me and telling me that I hae come too far to turn back. I can only tone the muscle now, aerobics and pilates; and losing weight would be just counterproductive. Part of me wishes that there were no skinny women on television, that all women were fleshed and curvy and there were no bones. It bothers me, a tiny part of me, to know that other women my height are ten, fifteen pounds thinner, and seem fine.
The rest of me snaps, "Oh, get the fuck over it and keep eating."

My husband worships my body. My friends adore my body.

Something interesting that still has not left my mind: Last weekend, Adam and I visited Charlotte and Billy, and stayed up late on Saturday, talking. Charlotte has lost weight again; her anorexia is still not as under control as we'd like to think. She needs fifteen or twenty more pounds and she knows this. When I became insecure about my curves, she made me take off my pants so she could look at my ass and prove that there was no actual cellulite. She kept looking at me for a while as if she wanted to say something. And then, finally, she did. At one point during the conversation, she turned to me with a pleading and panicked look in her eyes. She said, "I know you haven't been eating much lately. I'm worried. You can't lose weight again. I need you. You are my inspiration. You're the reason I want to gain weight and look good. If you get sick again I don't know what I'd do. I love you so much." It floored me, this intense confession. And it has inspired me to keep going, knowing that she looks up to me like this. I want to heal.
As if confirming all this, throughout the course of the night, Adam kept staring at me as though he wanted to devour me, like a most decadent dessert.

I want to feel the way they see me. I do, every so often. Getting better, more often.

My sciatica is killing me right now. I wish I were numb.

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